Talking to Children about the Death and Resurrection of Jesus

The death and the resurrection of Christ is a hard concept for any aged person, but for children it is especially hard.  Yet, our Christian faith centers around these concepts.  Often as adults we shy away from these difficult topics with children, unfortunately this just pushes a child to ‘deal with a tough subject’ on their own and perhaps carry that childish view into adulthood.  It is important to understand how a child can comprehend the death and resurrection of Christ, based on their faith development. 

Preschool

    Preschoolers are very literal and do not understand abstractions.  They have a very vague sense of death and very rarely can they separate make-believe from reality.  Focus on feelings, sadness when Jesus dies, happiness when he comes alive again in a ‘new and special way.’

Young Elemenary Age

    Young Elementary children do understand that people who die do not come back, therefore they do fear death.  These children also are the ones that wonder what happens after death.  These children need to focus on the resurrection so that they can start to move out of the scariness of death, but the resurrection may still be ‘magical’ and not miraculous.

Older Elementary Age

    Older Elementary children are logical thinkers and they can deal with the facts about the Easter story.  They are ready to move towards another understanding of the resurrection, as in God’s love for us.  These children may have trouble saying what they mean, but they understand a lot.

Questions

Some of the questions that often come from the children when we discuss the last days of Christ are exactly the same questions we might ask also.   Think through the following questions for yourself and then in light of the age of the child that might ask these questions.  Remember that children want simple easy direct answers. 

“Why did the people kill Jesus?”
“Why did God let Jesus die?”
“Jesus was God’s son, it didn’t hurt him did it?”
“How did his body get out of the tomb?”
“What did Jesus look like when he got out of the tomb?”
“How come some people didn’t recognize him?”
“How could Jesus appear and disappear?”

(from Donald and Patricia Griggs book style="font-style: italic;">Teaching and Celebrating Lent/Easter)