Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Domestic violence occurs when one person in an intimate relationship exercises power and control over the other through a pattern of intentional behaviors including emotional, physical, sexual, economic, and verbal abuse. 

Domestic violence affects both men and women, and is the leading cause of injury to women ages 15-44 in the United States.

  • Are any of these things happening to you?

    Cruel or hurtful remarks, frequent criticism or belittling

    No control over what you do, who you talk to or where you go

    Not allowed to see friends and family

    No control over your finances

    Slapping, shoving, punching, choking threatening with weapons or forced unwanted sex

    Telling you that the physical violence was your fault or denying it happened

    Property destroyed

    Children threatened to be taken or subjected to harsh, physical and verbal discipline

  • How can I recognize someone that may be abused?

    A partner that is jealous, possessive or has a bad temper

    Overeagerness to please the abuser

    Unusual or frequent ‘checking-in’ with the abusive partner to get permission to see family and friends

    Frequent unexplained injuries or ‘accidents’

    Low self-esteem and self-worth

    Limited access to friends, family or transportation

    Controlling all money spent in the household

    Frequent absences from school, work or other social activities

  • How should I respond?


    Call, chat or email with one of the resources below as an advocate for the abused

    Listen to them without judgement, acknowledge they are in a scary situation and be supportive

    Remind them that it’s NOT their fault, and they deserve better

    Provide a ‘safe place’ for the abused to come to when they are ready to leave the relationship

    Remind them that there is nothing they can do to change their partner’s behavior

    Offer to pray with them for God’s strength to leave the abusive relationship

    Help them develop a safe plan for leaving the relationship

    Encourage them to reach out and talk to those that can provide help, such as the resources below

    Continue to pray for them and remember that you cannot ‘rescue them’


    Be judgmental of their situation, choices, actions or inactions

    Make excuses for the abuser, or accuse the abused of being ‘overly sensitive’

    Attempt to explain or rationalize the abuser’s behavior

    Encourage them to stay and ‘work it out’

  • Resources

    Information, Hotlines & Support
    National Domestic Violence Hotline:
    Love Is Respect:
    Text “Love is” to 22522

    RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline:
    800.656.HOPE (4673)     

    Dallas-Area Support & Shelter Information
    The Counseling Place -- (Richardson)
    CHETNA – South Asian Victims of Domestic Violence -- (Richardson)
    Victim Relief Ministries --

    New Beginning Center --
    Genesis Women’s Shelter --
    The Family Place --
    Mosaic Family Services --
    The Salvation Army, Carr P. Collins Social Service Center --
    Brighter Tomorrows --
    Denton County Friends of the Family --
    Reconciliation Outreach --

    Important Phone Numbers
    Emergency: 911
    Richardson Police Department: 972-744-4800
    Dallas Police Department: 214-671-3001
    Garland Police Department: 972-485-4840
    Plano Police Department: 972-424-5678
    Allen Police Department: 214-509-4200

Domestic violence isn’t just the problem of the abused or the abuser.  It isn’t a question of race, or income, and it doesn’t just happen ‘somewhere else’.

Domestic violence abuse victims are our brothers and sisters, our mothers and fathers and our children, and domestic violence is happening right here in Richardson and in your neighborhood—maybe even in your own home.

As brothers and sisters in Christ, we are called not only to pray for others, but to take action when we see injustice. We have a congregational obligation to recognize the signs and symptoms of domestic violence, to be a beacon of hope and a resource for others to get help and to get out, and to be a living example of a different way of life—with hope and without fear. Empowering ourselves with the information about the signs and symptoms of domestic violence is the first step, knowing the resources available and what actions we can take to help is the next step.


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
 - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)